When we talk about pregnancy, everyone will say it is more about mother than father. But if you are a would be father who too willing to feel the same like would be mother and want to be a part of parenting from the early days of  baby (before birth) then here are 6 C’s for you to step into fatherhood.

1. Co- operate : During pregnancy your partner has to cope up with many challenges due to her body and baby like craving for food, can’t sleep at night, can’t eat this and have to eat this and many more…..Help her to settle down in this new life by adopting the same life style.  For example If she is restricted to certain food, you too don’t eat that. Cook nutritious food for her and You too eat the same food so even if she doesn’t like it she can have it for your love and support. Call her to ask whether she had her meal and medicines on time or not.  Little exercise is always good so plan an evening walk with her in your routine. Sleepless nights for your partner is so common so let her sleep in the morning as well as whenever she feels like. Weakness and Tiredness is one of the biggest change for her so don’t blame her if you miss couple of parties or functions due to her. Make sure she is getting enough fluid. Reduce your alcohol intake and try to leave smoking as it is not good for your partner’s as well as your baby’s health.
2. Contribute : Your partner can’t be so much energetic and refreshing all the times so help her in each and every thing. Accept the change and reduce her responsibilities. Divide house hold tasks and help her before she asks for help.
3. Calm down : Bear with your partner’s mood swing as it is not easy for her too. She is as much upset as you are with her unpredictable emotional flows but just can’t control it. So control your temper andhelp her to calm down by some relaxation techniques and your wise words.
4. Combine your love and care : Massage her back or body to comfort your partner in back pain and legs pain. Maintain soothing atmosphere in house especially in the morning. Plan bubble bath for her to ease her body. Indulge her with small surprises like flowers, chocolates, soft toys, dine out or making her favorite dishes. Come home early some times and go for pre birth shopping together. Always come back to home in happy mood. You might aware of that Delivery pain is much more higher than any other pain so shower your love and care to make her mind and heart stronger.
5. Console her :  Admire your partner from your heart and tell her how beautiful she is especially with the bump she has as she might be little bit unhappy with her new shape. She might be worried for her delivery or may be very excited. Listen to her carefully and enjoy conversation about baby and birth. Read about pregnancy and parenting and share with her. Read good books for her.
6. Create memories : Take as many photos as you can of your partner during pregnancy. Plan weekend photo shoot for her (it’s okay if you can’t call professional, take photos by yourself). Surprise clicks are always welcomed. Get baby scrap book and fill it together.

Loving a mother of your baby is equal to loving your baby so shower your love and care as much as you can and welcome your baby in pleasant environment. Together you are parents and together you will be family so get ready to treasure the bliss…..

After reading my articles my lovely readers asked me couple of questions like “You really do all these things?”, “Don’t you lose your temper?” “Don’t you think these things are so tough? “ And many more.

So here I am going to reveal my secret of parenting. I focus on few things really well and few things I like to ignore.  I have set my priorities and I have set limits accordingly. All human beings are same and so I am. I too get upset I too get angry but I believe in quality time with kid rather to have quantity time, and in that quality time I love her enough so she can accept me with my limits and weakness.

For example I am very much focused on routine, I will rarely miss it. At the same time I am okay with food. I believe food is to feed our body it is okay if I can make only one (good and healthy) dish some times.

I believe in hygiene but of course I allow my daughter to play with mud, sand and water as I believe if you don’t know what is mess how can you know what is cleanliness.

I always invite my daughter to help me even for the smallest thing and I too prefer to help her in all the things as I believe family should share everything.

When we have differences rather to argue I prefer to listen to her first and if she is right I will say sorry and change my decision and if she is wrong I will briefly explain it (as kids don’t need to know every thing in so much depth , detail description abstract their innocence) and tell her to do that. if then also she doesn’t agree I will say ”mother knows best” I set that dialogue as she has to follow it doesn’t matter she agrees or not. When I say mother knows best that means we are done talking.

No matter how much tired I am I will definitely read a bedtime story for her and sooth her for sleep as well as pamper her when she wakes up at least for 10 mins.

For me discipline comes first no matter what happened once I said I will start timer I will for sure.

I give much more importance to mummy and baby time. And during that time I share my likes dislikes even small problems (of course in simple and short way) and hobbies with my little one and she does the same that strengthen our bonding.

I don’t hesitate to share my weakness with my little one. For example “when I am hungry I am angry” so even if I scold her for a wrong reason she understands that and forgive me when I say sorry after that. At the same time I too understand and accept her weakness like when she is hungry or sleepy she won’t listen anything so I don’t try at that time.

Knowing is everything and as I know shouting on kids won’t work I try to avoid that but after all I am human being. I too lose my temper somedaybut as I mentioned in my article I know I am not alone.  I don’t feel guilty for that yes of course I feel sorry for that and I always apologize for that to my daughter and thus you won’t believe but when I will be on peak she will tell me mama “calm down it’s ok” and that really helps me I know you will feel it’s so rubbish your kid do something wrong and when you shout how can you listen calm down but trust me as we know shouting and scolding is not a solution you just need a reminder, As inside you don’t want to do that but it’s your sudden reaction.

Doesn’t matter how busy I am “ I will steal my time” at least an hour for a day as I believe when I am happy inside I can enjoy more with my daughter and handle her more humbly. My time means only me without any disturbance that really helps me to rejoice and reinforce myself. During that my time I can chill out I can understand myself and I can enjoy with me that makes me happy.

I prefer to play baby n mama dress up game at least once in a week in which she dress up like mummy and treat me and her dolls as kids So I can get idea where I went wrong and how it affected to my daughter,

It’s all about understanding and help them to understand. My articles are reflection of my life and so whatever I write I believe it and whatever I believe I write. I keep reading books and articles on kids to keep myself updated as well as to remind myself what not to do.

Hope this article will help you to set your priorities and limits for you and your kid so both of you can enjoy together and freely.