Everyone wants to make their kids master in everything and this everything includes sports, study, arts and craft, socialism and discipline. Well I hope you know you are raising a kid!!! I have seen many parents enrolling their kids in all the different classes like drawing, sports, singing, dancing, hand writing etc. even before the age of 4!!!

I remember when I was looking for skating classes for my 4 years old daughter the age criteria was above 5 years and when last year I enrolled her in the same class, the age criteria was dropped down by 3 years!!! I wondered if the same classes told me once that the kids are not physically ready before the age of 5 then what makes them ready now!!! Its us who forced them to do so; Its parents like you and me who told them I want to see if she can learn at early age or not; Its us who decided to give a try so please give a pause, think twice, search for correct age on the internet and look down for the reasons why you should not enroll your kids to classes before the age:

 Why you should not enroll your kids in classes before the age:

1. Physically not ready: Every age has its own milestone for example at the age of 6 months your kid can sit by himself; at the age of 10 months they can stand and at the age of 1 year they can walk. Even if you try hard enough you can not make them learn these things before the age and the reason is only one that their body is yet to develop. Mind and body synchronization comes up with the age and so you should give them time. There are chances of physical injuries which can turn out to the biggest mistake ever so please don’t rush and wait for the correct age before enrolling your kids in any activity.
2. Mentally not focused: Just like their body their brain too is not ready. Little kids are easy to divert and so they catch distractions very easily and so they don’t learn really. One year learning of small kid is equivalent of 1 month learning of an age appropriate kid!!! So basically you are wasting your time and money.
3. Early enrollment can steal their interest: Most of the kids have short term interest. Very few kids do the same thing for longer run. So if you would enroll your 3 years old kid in drawing and coloring, she may enjoy it that time but she would not learn it properly (because of the age) and by 4 she would loosen her interest which is the correct age to do the drawing and coloring!!! So technically when you did not expect them to color they colored better than their age but later they couldn’t. At 3 they couldn’t learn and now at 4 they loosen their interest so actually instead of profit it is disadvantage.
4. Don’t get time for age appropriate activity: There is always something to do at every age. if you enroll your kid in something different than age they will not get time to do the things of their respected age and so they will never enjoy or learn that activity. So utilize your kids’ time with age appropriate interesting activity than forcing them to overdo anything.
5. Not independent: Kids younger than 4 years can stay without parents only for preschool but not for extra activity.  They crave for pampering; they crave for attention, love and care. And so they may cry and waste the time, money and energy for nothing. And this may disturb other kids too. So simply back off and give your kids your time, love and care.

Actually you should not enroll your kids in any classes before the age of 4 years but if you are running out of time you can enroll them in some enjoyable classes where they can sing rhymes or listen stories or can have some fun time with age appropriate activity. You can always send them in day care or get a babysitter for them.

The best recommendation for the kids younger than 4 is library (toys and books both).

Well I know all the parents are worried about their kids’ future but trust me they will surely learn the things at the right age and make you proud but till then just wait and let them enjoy their childhood as things can be learn at any age but childhood won’t come again.

First is always special whether it is a first ray of the Sun or The first rain of the season or the feeling of holding your baby for the first time or even your baby’s first word. When I was wondering about my first post of this year 2017, my thoughts traveled all the clouds and sky.  I wanted to publish the one which can be beneficial for both parents as well as kids and I landed on the “Play alone Time”.  I am sure nothing can be better than this post to foster your parenting as Play alone time will not only make your kids independent but also offers you some personal time to conquer your self.

Play alone time is the time when your kids are most likely to have fun with them. They enjoy their own company and comfort themselves with their favorite toy or activity.

Expert says “play alone time is as much important as spending quality time with your kids” so here is why play alone time is important:

1. Play alone time leaves the kids on their own and so they can explore the way they want which increase their self-esteem.
2. Curious kids derive different ways to play with the same room and same toys which helps them to develop their imagination.
3. The one who regularly having play alone time are more satisfied and happy with themselves. These kids enjoy their own company.
4. During play alone time they express their heart in one or another way so you can get the idea of your child’s actual thought process and development.
5. Play alone time is one of the best way to review your parenting as here your kid is going to perform all the good or bad things she learned from you.
6. Chances of getting good friends are high as these kids are more focused on their friends’ quality than seeking for just a companion.

How your kids play alone time should look like:

1. Depends on age you can choose the time. You can start play alone time by the age of 8 to 9 months. At this age kids can play for 15 to 20 minutes by themselves which increase gradually by 45 to 75 minutes in next 2 years. This doesn’t mean kids elder than 3 years can play alone for 2 to 3 hrs. Ideally we can say kids elder than 2 years can have successfully play alone time of 1 hr.
2. Play alone time should not include electronics. Say No to mobile, television, tablet, phone and musical toys.
3. Double check your kids’ safety according to your kids’ age.
4. You should not be visible to your kids but you have to be near to the place so you can monitor your kids’ activity.
5. Watch your kids’ activity carefully to improve your parenting.

Play alone time doesn’t mean:

1. In this 1 hr. your kids will never turn up to see you. They may come to check you in every 20 minutes and go back to play again.
2. You need not to look out your kid.
3. You can leave your kid in your house or car alone.

Play alone time is beneficial to you as well. You too can have play alone time (Me Time) in this 1 hr.!!!  This is the best way to steal time for your fun loving activity or to finish your important paper work. And last but not least it is always pleasure to watch your kids playing. So have fun and enjoy the charm. Remember play alone time is to enjoy so don’t take extra load to finish the pending things (though it is really hard to avoid those chores, target to spend this time on you at least twice in a week).

*** If your kid doesn’t turn up at least once in this one hr. then it means you need to give little bit more attention to your kid as it shows your kid is bit detached to you.