Are you raising an innocent child?

What is kid? You may think what kind of question is this? Kid means kid, a child. But no, kid doesn’t mean just a child. Kid is a combination of soft sweet heart with little naughtiness to spread smile in the world. Kid is one who can surprise you every day with his/her sweet talk and curious mind. Kid is a one who can be happy with just a small star sticker on his/her hand. Kid is a one who cries when party goes over. Kid is a one who can stop crying when you offer a candy!!!

Do you know why? Answer is very simple. Because kids are innocent.

But sometimes they behave differently, a good different something similar to you!!! For example, one day they come to you and say mama I got two same gifts so you can give one of them to someone who really needs it!!! We feel proud when our kids do something very good like this. We appreciate that with wow my kid is big boy/girl now!!!

Take a moment and think is s/he really a big enough? Revise the incident with their reaction and rethink is it okay for this age? Am I not forcing them to react like a big girl/boy by words or behavior?

Good behavior is good if it comes with innocence but what if it comes with over maturity? Maturity comes with age and it should not come before the time or else it will abstract beauty of your kid, it will steal your kid’s childhood and it will kill your kid’s innocence.

Here we will discuss what to expect and what not from kids to secure their innocence.

• When you say I am having head ache and your kid try to massage your head for a minute and asks are you feeling better now? That shows their love and concern for you and that’s their innocence.

But when you say I am having headache, you go and play in your room and they don’t show up even once in one hour then that’s not kid!!! I know you will feel peace for this but this won’t be beneficial in near future.

• When you say please be quite to your chatter box and they really are quite for couple of minutes that’s more than enough. They will surely speak something after 1 or 2 minutes and that’s the way they should be; forgettable and free…..that makes them sweet and charming.

But if they really be quite until you initiate the talk then that’s not kid.

• If your kid is more in fashion that’s really good that s/he understands it at this age but if s/he don’t use much colors or mismatch and follows the concept of matching then you are surely missing his/her childhood. If your child compares his/her look with you then this is the time for you to take a break and think about her childhood.

For kids colors and favorites are beautiful not look!!! They feel they look beautiful as well as all. And that should be that way only.

• When your kid is ready to give everything to someone if asked then also it’s not good as that means 1. She is not attached to anything 2. She might be afraid of you 3. She is over matured. Well it’s okay if s/he is not ready to share sometimes or something.

You should respect their feeling for that. At the end they will surely learn the concept of give and get.

• It is perfectly fine if your kid cries when party goes over or when guests leave your house. This shows their affection for people. And that is really good sign. Don’t scold or use harsh words for this behavior or else either they will stop sharing their feelings with you or they will be carefree from people.

• If your kid talks in playground and can’t focus on play due to that; that’s their innocence. Encourage them to focus on play but don’t force them for that as sports they will surely learn later but this innocence won’t come again.

• If your kid understands people are more important than gifts, that is really good. But if they don’t wait for gift or they don’t feel excited by gifts then that’s not kid.

Kids’ reactions are good if and only if its age appropriate. If your kid shows over maturity then that too is not good as s/he will defiantly learn to react like a grown up one day but this is their only chance to react and behave like a kid, little naughty and little sweet.

This doesn’t mean you should not appreciate your kid when they behave well but yes don’t try to teach all at this age. Sometimes it’s good to hide few things when we know it’s not their age. Your explanation should be in brief only. Detail description steals their innocence, drop their imagination and make them mature than their age.

Do you want to test whether your kid is innocent or not?

Try small tricks when they are crying and if they start laughing or smiling in couple of seconds than you are on right path as kids are those who can cry and laugh together and if your kid can not do that, that means  you are stealing their childhood.

2 to 7 years age is really important to make them confident, test their limits, and explore their emotions. so just try to guide them to use their emotions in better way rather to stop it.

Don’t force them to learn anything before age as even god gifted over talented kids cannot have a normal lives.