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• Make a Chart: you and your kid together make chart (rough picture of things to do with sequence number) of what to do next and hang it in kid’s room or in a room where your kid spends a lot of time. If your child is younger than a year you can make it for your kid. When chart is visible to them most of the times they can able to understand what comes next and when there is a time to do the things ask them now “which chart we will follow?” Making chart is beneficial in two ways: first Pictorial presentation makes things easy to understand and second it will increase creativity.
• Prepare for Transition: At the start you need to make them ready to follow the chart and so you need to give some pre idea about the next coming event like “in 10 min we will take bath”. Be little flexible but set the timer and tell them when timer rings you need to come by yourself and once timer rings never ever compromise.
• Little Flexible : when undesirable changes occurs you should give them idea like today you took a little more time in dinner so I can’t read a story for you but you promise tomorrow you will finish it on time so I can read two stories instead.
• Need Consistency & Limits: Consistency is always a key here. Once you miss and they will take you for granted.  So for all the miss give them perfect idea (in straight and simple words)of why and try to follow as much as you can. Set the schedule that you can follow.
• Encourage By Small Rewards: Initially for every success give them a star or sticker and tell them when you will win 10/20 stars we will go to zoo (A Place of your kid’s choice) and see how enthusiastically they follow it!!!
• 10-12 hrs. Sleep Pattern: make a chart in a way so your kid can get at least 10-12 hrs. continuous night sleep as most of the kids skip nap time by the age of 2 or 3. Continuous sleep helps your kid’s mind and body to relax and rejoice for a new day.
• Include Soothing Time: when you make chart of to do things don’t forget to include hug time or cuddle time to show your love towards your kid after all for kids love is the only thing to achieve.

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Well it seems hard to start but actually it’s tough for couple of weeks only and will reassure you till 5-7 yrs. The first word I understood as a mother was “have patience” and to be patient for couple of weeks is always preferable to raise a fresh healthy child.

Here is a Preferable Routine for your Pre-Schooler: 

By 8:00 your kid has to fall asleep so he/she can be ready to start a new fresh day.

Here is a Preferable Routine for your Toddler: 

Most of the toddlers take 1 or 2 nap ( of less than 2 hrs.) during a day and need 12 hrs. continuous sleep at night.

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My 4 yrs. old daughter was keeping me busy since last two days as she was suffering from stomach infection. It’s but obvious that I couldn’t do any work in these days. Finally it was 8 PM of second day and I had lots of pending work so I simply asked “Hey dear I know you have pain in your tummy so you can’t sleep but as this is 8 O’clock will you please lay down on couch and I will finish my office work sitting next to you” And she took a moment and said “yes mummy”, gave me a hug and couple of kisses and allowed me to work for next 2 hrs. !!!!!!!! You will think wow what a co-operative girl!!! And I agree indeed but this wasn’t by nature all kids are after all kids but you can make them ready to co-operate by your little effort and that’s simply by Setting Up Routine.

Routine doesn’t mean a strict schedule that kid has to do the way you want but it’s a predictable planned day in which you and your kid can get enough time to understand each other and do fun loving activity with little discipline.

Benefits from Routine

• Makes kids feel secure: When kids can predict the next coming thing it will be much easier for them to accept and they feel secure even for the things they don’t like to do. Predictable doesn’tmean you have to follow the clock…….but you have to just track the events occurrences. When every day same thing happens in a same sequence it becomes routine.
• Increases comfort level: Change is always challenging so when you know these are the things you have to do in a day you can do more comfortably. Same with the kids when they know what to expect next it will be much easier to accomplish. Even when they are tired they understand that these are the things I am supposed to do and show less tantrums.
• Tolerate frustration: The best thing is they can easily cope up with the small changes as rests of the things are as per the expectations. Even when undesirable changes occur or kids are exhaust they still can predict the remaining half and tolerate their frustration.
• Foster responsibility: when predictable things happens kids feel that they got whatever they want and they understand why they are not getting particular thing. They become more confident, co-operative and understanding. Routine teaches them after and before concept so now they can be more patient.
• Cut down stress: when you know this is the last thing you need to do and after that you will be able to take rest or get time for you it’s easy to handle your frustration and control your temper specially when you are tired or ill. Predictable sleep time always reduces sleeping fights.
• Get personal time: Raising a kid needs a lot of effort and patience. You may not get time to do the things you like but if you plan a day the way you want I am sure it would be easy to steal small amount of time for you also and what else can be more desirable to have time to spend the way you want.
• Make life disciplined: planning is always preferable when things go per the planning you will feel safe secure and confident and that makes your life more happy. Flexibility is always welcomed but little discipline makes your life ordered and organized. Don’t let your days come and go rather make it more effective and productive for you and your child.

For more information please refer my next blog on How To Set A Routine publishing on Thursday,12 March 2015.

If you are a parent who thinks how can I choose the right toy? What are the kind of toys I should offer to my little one?  I need to check for age only or any other criteria too? What will really help them to grow? Then check it out my Tips On ToyBox  and here I am suggesting top most toys to offer :

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Blocks Beads & Puzzle:  This will help to develop fine motor skills and problem solving approach in your child. Try to guide but don’t force them to play the exact way let them make whatever they like. There are many types of different blocks/puzzles available in market you can choose them by checking size n no. of pieces on it. Wooden blocks and toys are always best as they give realistic effect and long lasting.

Balls: Ball will provide little physical exercise both outside and inside the house and develop gross motor skills.That will build physical stamina of your kid as well as develop hand-eye co-ordination and balancing.

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Dress Up Toys: These will give idea of real social helper and what are the importance of them in day to day life like doctors firefighters teachers and many more. Dress up of animals and fairy tells will extend  their cognitive and  imagination power.

Toy House Tunnel & Toy Kitchen; who doesn’t like to have their own house and so the kids. They like to play with their own tent tunnel or toy house especially kitchen. They have noticed that how a kitchen is an important part of a house and that’s why kids love to play with kitchenware a lot than any other toys. They explore here whatever they learn from normal routine life and express their emotions by their play.

Dolls Cars & Trains: “Dream comes true” and this thing they will realize by fairy tales and dolls and if it’s a boy from cars and trains. With a doll kids can learn zipping loving caring combing buttoning and many more things. Normally cars and trains are option of dolls if it’s a boy but that doesn’t mean girls don’t play with it or boys don’t play with dolls. These kinds of toys teach self-control and build good story teller.

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Board Games: Board game likes memory game snack n ladder sequencing etc will teach them a concept of win/loose. It will also teach them team concept taking turn and how to have patience.

Art & Craft: Inside every kid there is an Artist and you just need to help them to come out kids have their own way to see the world and that’s really very beautiful. Give them crayons and paper and they will surprise you with their outstanding thinking. Water colors are best even if your kid is not interested in coloring he/she will play with water color for sure. Let them use their finger and hands. Play dough is also a good option and develop fine motor skills.

Musical Instrument: Kids love to dance sing and even play some of musical instrument. Dance will help them to stretch their body as well as music will refresh them. Music will enhance concentration and memory power. I know you wont believe this but memory of kid who is learning music is 40% higher than a memory of a normal kid!!!!

Water & Sand Play: Most of the kids are fond of water and sand. Give them bathtub toys bubble maker bucket shovel shells stones sand & water creature and just see how much fun it is. With these toys they are really free to explore themselves so even unconscious part of their mind can be visible and they understand the nature and creature.

 Books & CDs: Always try to read at least one book before going to bed for your kid. Early reader technique will develop learning skills in your kid. Books are very good way to tell them dos and don’t as well as increase vocabulary. Early reader technique will develop learning skills and discipline in your kid.  If you don’t prefer reading then go for CDs of kid’s rhymes or cartoons.

You should always give your kids a toy for which they need to do more things rather than choosing a toy with multi functionality as the more children have to do to play the more they will learn.

When it comes to kids and their toys many parents will say not a big deal why should we   think about it we just need to give them whatever they want!!!!! But actually that’s not true. Toys are not just to engage them, that really help them to grow. You can give kids two types of toys: 1. Real stuff 2. From the shop First one is very easy kids can play everything!! really everything so you can offer them vessels, broom, empty boxes, bottles, wrappers , bags , newspapers , old clothes or even old shoes and they will enjoy to play with all these. But who doesn’t want to buy toys for their kids? Toys available in shops are really very attractive but do u think it’s a good choice to buy a stylish mobile without any proper apps in that? No right? same with the toys most of the toys look attractive but of no use it won’t help your kid to grow your kid can play with it and may be its worth for you but actually toys are not just to play but to learn to encourage  to help your kids to grow and many more……. So choose toys by yourself and very carefully. You can check the backside of the pack there will be little information about age of kid and what will they learn if it’s not there don’t hesitate to ask shop keeper what your kid will learn from it or read the review from the internet. Here are few tips to make your selection easier:

• Age appropriate toys:There will be age like 2+ 5+ on the box of toy and don’t forget to check it. It’s not good to give your child a toy which is higher or lower of his/her age. Because if you will choose higher age by thinking in mind it will be useful afterwards then also you are wrong. Because your kid will open that box and will start to play with it in a convenient way so he/she won’t learn anything from it and later when your kid will be able to play in proper way he/she won’t as interest of toy is gone or  won’t be ready to leave the easiest way !!!! So if your kid has completed 2 years choose 2+ if he/she has completed 5 choose 5+ toys. So Toys will affect the way they meant to be.

• Let them choose:Kids will play only those toys which they really like so let them choose what they want to play. Of course that doesn’t mean go to shop and tell them take whatever you like!!! First you go through all the toys select couple of suitable toys for child and tell to choose from those selected toys. This will be beneficial in two ways. First you can offer them a right toy and second they will think it’s their choice as they are final decision maker here.

• Old is new  :well do you have any clothes in your wardrobe you brought last year and wore only once…..try it rather to buy new one and you will get the feeling of new one only. Same with the kids they live in present only so if you think your kid is done with toy don’t trash/discard that toy from toy box instead hide it in your room for couple of weeks and if your kid is younger than 2 year you can rotate a toy every week. You Just need to hide a toy from toy box and place a new toy on their table from your hidden toy box and see the face of your child he/she will be very happy to see this new toy and play with it as before only.
• Let them join you:normal tendency of kids is to follow you. They might not get your words but they will surely get whatever you do. So utilize it with your little interest. Most of the time a kid of singer will be more interested in singing a kid of doctor will be more interested in doctor kit and so on because they can see that their parents are enjoying it so they feel it’s really interesting. So if you want them to play with something don’t just give them a toy n tell them see this is the way you should play in fact let your kid do whatever he/she likes just seat near to your child and open a toy and start playing the game and enjoy it if they will see you are enjoying then they will surely come n ask may I please join you and then play together. Yeah you will say who has this much time but try it at least once it could be a good break for you too or who knows you will like it more than your kid!!

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Well after my last blog celebration-of-love-valentine-special one of my reader said “its good but seems really simple what if I want some extraordinary date?”  And my answer is yes of course that  is simple but sober way quite old one but that always enough to touch some ones heart but if you want an elegant evening here are some tips to impress your love ones  :

1. 1. Search for very good sophisticated restaurant which serves candle light dinner in your city.
   2. Reserve your table to avoid unnecessary trouble.
   3. On valentine day send a heart shape bouquet made of roses and orchid to your love one with a small note of venue and time.
   4.  Go to the restaurant before 10 min.
   5. Order the food she really likes. If you are okay with drink wine will make your dinner more graceful but if you don’t order some cocktail with your meal. Meal should contain appetizer drink main course and dessert.
   6. Ask msp generator no survey DJ / hotel manager to play a love song (which you want to dedicate her) when she arrives or if restaurant doesn’t provide this facility you can play that on your mobile when she arrives.
   7. Don’t forget to stand up and personally offer her seat.
   8. Initiate conversation but talk about her mostly also Listen to her carefully. Don’t take any call or messages during this time.
   9. Give her a gift after meal which should be well wrapped in attractive manner. You can use attractive box to pack which are already available in market. Gift should be really precious and small in size. You can give diamonds or  jewelry or well-known love symbol .
   10. At last walk with her to the parking or drop her to her home.

Valentine day is a day of love, a day to spread love by little gesture and show your love ones how important they are. Yes of course we can do this any time and any day but in our so called busy life we always count on money prestige power position growth and always forget to count on the people whom we love or many times we just don’t know how to express our feelings in effective way. If you are one of them who forget to express your love or just confuse about the way to express your affection here we are to foster your feelings and make your life lively:

1. Spend Quality Time :

The most important thing in any relationship is Time. Time always build strength in relationship. Plan a day for you and your partner without any disturbance. Switch off your phones no internet no laptops no news channels. It’s much more important that how you spend time with your partner than how much time you spend with her/him.

2. Give a Spark of Emotions :

Spending money and getting something from mall or shop is the last thing you should do rather you should give it your personal touch. Make your own card and write some poem or song in that. If you think this is just out of your creativity then just take a paper n couple of color pens, write what do u feel for him/her in your words or something that reminds your first date or what do u like in your partner and if you are thinking of getting married you can propose him/her by reminding how first time you fall for him/her. Remember winners don’t do different but differently.

3. Nothing can be sweeter than  sweets :

Sweets always show right emotions in a right way. Make some heart shape cookies , sweets or chocolates and decorate it by your own  serve it on a table of love with light smell of perfume and romantic music with a flower, bouquet are good but I would say go for a single rose it will express more emotions than the bunch of flowers .

4. Add flavor in your life :

Going out is okay but better you Cook something together and trust me that’s the best time you can spend together. If cooking is not your cup of tea you can order it from outside as restaurants will be really crowded on this day.  Dress up in your favorites decorate your balcony/terrace and set the table with candles if possible.  Find good romantic movie so you can enjoy it after meal.

5. Create your own romantic way :

If you are single then also you can enjoy the day by your own.  Get some good romantic novel or movie  cook something special for you do the things you want to do since long time but couldn’t because clash royale gems generator of routine life listen your favorite music or celebrate with your friends. After all who else can loves you more than you?

Women can express their feelings better than men so this valentine don’t wait for your boyfriend or hubby to do something instead lift your evening and amaze them with celebration of love.

Celebration means enjoying the moment and memorizing the things. If we are ready to celebrate our first anniversary or valentine day or new year eve then why not a first year of parenting. It’s all about memorizing good things done in the whole year. Here are some reasons why you should celebrate the first birthday of the baby:

1. Relax n Reward yourself:

Celebration is for you not for your Baby.  Celebrate the day for you as you have successfully completed a year of a parenting and you know how tough it is. You must had changed your routine for  your little one you must have cut off your work load which you enjoyed a lot even you had cut off your social relationship up to certain level  So this is the right time for you to take a little break and think about yourself.  Get relax and be proud how gracefully you have handled all the changes.

2.      Achieved milestone:

One year!!!!!! You must have feeling like “it’s been one year!”  Or “I can’t believe it!” Or “sometimes time just flies” and yes with kids time really flies.  But did you notice how much you have learned in this one year? How much your kid learned in this one year? Your kid taught you how to have patience, how to enjoy small things, love is more than enough and many more. your kid learned to cry eat sit crawl stand and may be ready to walk or already started walking, he/she is able to understand your small instruction and started feeling you and your love and many more things……..don’t you think this is the perfect thing to celebrate and say “what a good achievement” to you and your kid.

3. Create memories:

If you think your baby won’t remember anything then yes you are perfectly right and that’s why it’s good to click some pictures and shoot videos to create memories. You can show that to your little one when he/she will be toddler and trust me they will really enjoy it a lot and feel very special.

4. Having a field trip:

May be your kid will forget everything but trust me he/she will definitely learn one thing and that is birthday means cake candles balloons and fun  And what can be the better way to teach the things other than the actual field trip.

5.  Time to introduce your baby to the world:

If your baby is premature or gone through medical surgery when born you might needed to take care of him/her a little more for the first year and in this case  you might not got a chance to introduce your baby to the world in proper way. One year is enough time to settle down so if you twodigits game haven’t introduce your baby till the day this is the perfect time to introduce your baby to the world.

It’s okay if you don’t want to have a big party or so many people for celebration but at least you can enjoy the day the way you want.  Infect it’s good to invite known people (family members and some friends) in your party rather than having a grand celebration.  In this way kid will able to know that the family doesn’t end with 3 or 4 people. This really helps him to get idea about social life especially if yours is a nuclear family.