When I asked coupe of parents “when do you get angry on your kids?” I got different replies like “when my kids don’t listen to me”, “when my kids don’t eat properly”, “when my kids tease me a lot”, “when my kids make noise” and many more. To satisfy myself I asked again “How many times your kids don’t listen to you or don’t eat well or tease you in a week and how many times you get angry because of that?” and the answer was “out of 10 average 3 times parents get angry for these kind of kids behavior!!!” then what about remaining 7? Read the story and you will get the answer…..
There was a party in our house. I and my husband both were busy in preparation of guest’s list menu venue and lot related to that. I was writing guests’ list when my daughter asked for the same pen I was using. As I was busy I simply said “no baby go and get the pen from pen stand”. She was fascinated by the pen in my hand so she urged for that pen only and my husband got angry “mama told you once get the pen from pen stand then why are you teasing her?”
Do you think here we got angry because of my kid’s behavior? No we got angry because we were busy!!!
Well the point is we could avoid this by simply exchanging pen with her but we didn’t as we were busy with lots of things like party office and house hold chores.
So actually the truth is we don’t get angry on kid’s behavior, we get angry because of our circumstances. Don’t agree? Let me explain here When do we get angry on kids? And I am sure you will agree to these points.
Hectic schedule: When we are really stuck in office work, house hold chores or some other to do things, a small mistake of kids’ are enough to make us scream on them. When we are busy, our mind just want to complete the task as quickly as possible and kid’s interruption cause delay in that and result we get angry!!!
Mental stress: When we are not in good mood or when we want to place our point but no one is ready to listen, we get angry on kid. For example when in office our boss screams on us or in house our parents say something which we don’t agree but can’t resist them because we respect them, we finally yell on our kids.
Illness: Pain is something which we can’t control. And because of that we try to control rest of the things. For example when we are ill like cold cough or headache noise irritates us a lot but the same noise doesn’t bother us in normal days. So When we are sick we scold our kids for all the small silly mistakes.
Dissatisfaction: When we are not satisfied with our work (In house or office) or with our lives, we get frustrated and that frustration comes out in terms of scream (on kids). We want to change the things but can’t and when we can’t find the way we scream.
Can’t get Me Time: When we can’t get “Me Time” to conquer ourselves, we get angry. All of us want to do one thing in a day (watching tv or any kind of hobby) which can makes us happy and if consistently we can’t do that we feel helpless and result we scream on kids.
Well There is nothing wrong or right about getting angry on kids for these reasons but yes if we want we can control this as at the end it will hurt us only.
Whenever you are in above situation and can’t handle your stress just take a moment and ask yourself “Am I really angry on my kid?” and I am sure you will be able to control yourself in this one moment as your heart don’t really want to do this.
Well sometimes we can’t control our temper and we scream. For this I suggest say yourself” it’s okay”. don’t let your frustration turns into guilty. It’s perfectly fine as you are parents and parents want to do best for their kids so just take a deep breath conquer yourself and say sorry to your kid for that whenever you feel better.
Once you know something else is teasing you not your kid you will enjoy even more with your kid. After all kids are best source of happiness and love.
I am trying not to scream on my daughter because of above reasons…..Are you with me?
