Take your kids’ help to regain your composure

It’s been more than a month to write and I am glad that finally I am back to my hobby. I believe every day in life teaches us something and so here I am ready to share my learning of a month.

Last one and half month was really busy and tiresome for me. I was truly occupied and stressed out (both mentally and physically). Due to back to back holidays in school I couldn’t concentrate on my writing and later one of my best friends and neighbor moved out. She was the one with whom I use to talk every day about everything and so it was really hard to say good bye to her. Our kids also shared very good friendship so my daughter too gone through the emotional flaw. And result I just been busy with taking care of her emotional flaws as well as mine.

You must be thinking how does all this relate to the kids’ bog? So answer is I learned the new way to control my temper; to deal with my mood swing and that’s what I am sharing here.

Of course I handled my daughter’s emotional flaw well and she quickly came out of all those things and made new friends (at this age it is really easy to forget the things) but it was me who couldn’t handle it and been really fussy. I became short tempered for a while and as a result I use to get angry on my kid without particular reason and that too many times in a day. I knew it wasn’t her fault but I just couldn’t help. Every night I use to promise myself that tomorrow will be different but nothing got changed. And I have decided to take my kid’s help to regain my composure.

Finally I talked to my 6 years old daughter and told her the truth that I am upset and I am really sorry for all these things. She listened it carefully ( even though she couldn’t understand many things) and simply agreed to help me with my mood swing.

Punishment given by my kid – Foster Feel

I and my daughter has decided to measure my mood by reward points. If I behave well she will give me a star and if I behave badly she will give me a sad smiley exactly the way I treat her. If I get more than 2 sad faces in a day she can punish me. And to my surprise it really worked!!!  First day I got 3 sad faces and she gave me a punishment which I carried our sincerely and from very next day I could control my temper just like before. Of course we did it for whole week but I regain my composure quickly. I never thought kids can help us like this!!!

Just like kids we too can control our behavior by reward points so whenever you feel you are not at your best just try it out. If your kid is elder than 5 they can help you with this which is truly amazing experience or you can measure your mistakes by yourself.

Here are some points which can help you to implement this exercise:

1. Be wise and accept your mistake.
2. Don’t feel embarrassed to carry out punishment instead feel sorry.
3. Your kids are basically helping you so don’t argue if they give you sad smiley for the small reason.
4. It may take time so be patient.
5. Give treat to your kids for their help.

I knew we can learn many things from kids but I never knew kids can help us to settle down our feelings too.  This will be beneficial for your kids too:

1. Your kids will feel special as you are taking their help.
2. It will add their confidence level.
3. They will become more positive towards life.
4. It will be indirect lesson for them to deal with their mood too.
5. It will lengthen your bond with your kids.

And I am telling all these from my own experience. So If you are going through the blue please try it out and have an incredible experience of parenting.