Want To Say “HURRY UP”…………Please wait

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You switch off the alarm and look at the clock Its 7:00 AM , Couldn’t wake up on first alarm now it’s 7:30 your kids have to leave for school and so many things to do like wake them up, give them milk and breakfast, make their lunch box, pack the school bag  and the most important is make them ready with brush bath clothes n shoes. oops lots of things to do and kids won’t understand it and will argue as usual like I don’t want to wear this clothes and not this shoes, want to play first then only I will go for bath, I want this in my breakfast and why this for lunchbox and many more………….you want to cut all this so you might say “please today no argument and just hurry up we are late!!!!!!”

Do you think it will help you??? Well I don’t think so as kids doesn’t have a word “Hurry Up” in their dictionary they might heard of it a lot from you but can’t response accordingly and you might think this boy/girl won’t listen to me any time!!!! Frustrated right? But that’s neither their fault nor yours. You might say I just want little cooperation when I am late is it too much? No, Not really but the way you prefer to do so that is not realistic as they are kids only.

Here are reasons why you should not say “Hurry UP”:

• When you say “Hurry Up” their ears can listen it, their mind will start thinking what it is and body will ask what to do for hurry up finally a big confusion in their mind and they will be busy understanding and manipulating the word hurry up and result even slower than routine!!!

• Kids at the age of 1-7 don’t have exact idea of time concept they might understand 8 AM is school time and 7 AMis wake up time but don’t have idea about what goes between 7 to 8 that means they don’t really know how much time they get to get ready normally and late means how much time they will get now/today?

• They can’t understand that if we will not do something we can save the time so they won’t be ready to skip or omit any task. why can’t they take bath today is out of their mind and when you say no bath today their mind will start thinking so can’t focus on your words or follow your instructions.
  

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More you will say “Hurry up” more it will affect negatively as their body and mind will not able to tune up due to your impatience So what to do? Leave it and be late? Of course not just follow the 5 steps:

1. Keep calm: First thing you need to do is say yourself it’s okay to be late relax take a deep breath take a min and think what are the things in priority and what are the things really necessary to do and then here you go……

2.   Speed up your task: You just need to do your task speedy like give bath in 5 min in place of 10 min but let them play for 5 min as always In this case they won’t even feel that there is a change.

3. Distract with fun: Tell them story of two monkeys and feed them two bananas for breakfast tell the story of ginger bread and pack their lunch box with bread sing rhyme of 1 2 3 and make their selection of clothes on the hand on 3. What you need to do is take the decision and encourage them to follow with some fun. In simple word manipulate their thinking the way you want them to react.

4. My turn to help you: Kids like when you help them occasionally but if you will say you are late let me do this then no…….no way.  When you say let me help you that mean they can’t do it properly but when you say today is my turn to help you as yesterday you helped me a lot then they will feel proud and let you do the things you want. So make them wear shoes or comb their hair (the things which normally done by themselves) by simply saying the wise words.

5. Include Family Members: Taking help is perfectly okay especially when it comes to family. In fact when you will ask your husband or mother in law to do something and they will do that, that really leaves a good image on your kid and help them to understand the value of family.

Precaution is always better than cures:

•  Add False Time: Make schedule the way so they can get 15 min more than they required normally. So if you are late then also actually it’s not too late it’s just like you will not get 15 min extra.

• Minimize Morning Chores:Minimize your morning to do list by pre preparation like pack their school bag before going to bed, ask them to select clothes, what goes in lunch box and breakfast etc. before they go to sleep.