After reading my articles my lovely readers asked me couple of questions like “You really do all these things?”, “Don’t you lose your temper?” “Don’t you think these things are so tough? “ And many more.
So here I am going to reveal my secret of parenting. I focus on few things really well and few things I like to ignore. I have set my priorities and I have set limits accordingly. All human beings are same and so I am. I too get upset I too get angry but I believe in quality time with kid rather to have quantity time, and in that quality time I love her enough so she can accept me with my limits and weakness.
For example I am very much focused on routine, I will rarely miss it. At the same time I am okay with food. I believe food is to feed our body it is okay if I can make only one (good and healthy) dish some times.
I believe in hygiene but of course I allow my daughter to play with mud, sand and water as I believe if you don’t know what is mess how can you know what is cleanliness.
I always invite my daughter to help me even for the smallest thing and I too prefer to help her in all the things as I believe family should share everything.
When we have differences rather to argue I prefer to listen to her first and if she is right I will say sorry and change my decision and if she is wrong I will briefly explain it (as kids don’t need to know every thing in so much depth , detail description abstract their innocence) and tell her to do that. if then also she doesn’t agree I will say ”mother knows best” I set that dialogue as she has to follow it doesn’t matter she agrees or not. When I say mother knows best that means we are done talking.
No matter how much tired I am I will definitely read a bedtime story for her and sooth her for sleep as well as pamper her when she wakes up at least for 10 mins.
For me discipline comes first no matter what happened once I said I will start timer I will for sure.
I give much more importance to mummy and baby time. And during that time I share my likes dislikes even small problems (of course in simple and short way) and hobbies with my little one and she does the same that strengthen our bonding.
I don’t hesitate to share my weakness with my little one. For example “when I am hungry I am angry” so even if I scold her for a wrong reason she understands that and forgive me when I say sorry after that. At the same time I too understand and accept her weakness like when she is hungry or sleepy she won’t listen anything so I don’t try at that time.
Knowing is everything and as I know shouting on kids won’t work I try to avoid that but after all I am human being. I too lose my temper somedaybut as I mentioned in my article I know I am not alone. I don’t feel guilty for that yes of course I feel sorry for that and I always apologize for that to my daughter and thus you won’t believe but when I will be on peak she will tell me mama “calm down it’s ok” and that really helps me I know you will feel it’s so rubbish your kid do something wrong and when you shout how can you listen calm down but trust me as we know shouting and scolding is not a solution you just need a reminder, As inside you don’t want to do that but it’s your sudden reaction.
Doesn’t matter how busy I am “ I will steal my time” at least an hour for a day as I believe when I am happy inside I can enjoy more with my daughter and handle her more humbly. My time means only me without any disturbance that really helps me to rejoice and reinforce myself. During that my time I can chill out I can understand myself and I can enjoy with me that makes me happy.
I prefer to play baby n mama dress up game at least once in a week in which she dress up like mummy and treat me and her dolls as kids So I can get idea where I went wrong and how it affected to my daughter,
It’s all about understanding and help them to understand. My articles are reflection of my life and so whatever I write I believe it and whatever I believe I write. I keep reading books and articles on kids to keep myself updated as well as to remind myself what not to do.
Hope this article will help you to set your priorities and limits for you and your kid so both of you can enjoy together and freely.
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